|van Kuilenburg, Philippa
||Distortion, Praise and Authenticity - The Power of Mirroring
||Journal 29 December 2020
||development, J L Moreno, mirroring, modelling, Psychodrama, relationship, role theory, Zerka Moreno
||Research has proven the need for positive social interactions for a child to survive (Poulton et al., 2020). A parent’s job therefore is to create a nurturing environment in which the child experiences themselves as being safe, loved and valued. For many of my clients their parents failed miserably in this duty of care as their particular way of engaging their child was through control, judgment and criticism. The child had repeated experiences of being victimised, humiliated, shamed, patronised and pathologized until their confidence was eroded, their perception of self skewed and their ability to relate severely impaired. Somehow however those children survived into adulthood and maintained a small kernel of hope for a different future that led them to sign up for an eight week skills based programme for women on anger management, identity, self worth and assertiveness. That’s when my work begins as I lead this self development programme.
||Reflections on Role Theory
||Journal 23 December 2014
||Max Clayton, role theory, Zerka Moreno
||I am a child playing in the sand arranging and rearranging the sand to create forms that are my own form of art and meaning. I am constructing and deconstructing, involved with the texture of the sand, the tactile sense of the grains passing through my hands. I notice how the sand moves in response to my touch and the weight or wetness of the mounds. Sometimes the grains sparkle and I am reminded that sand is essentially glass and a central component in the manufacturing of steel. My father works with both glass and steel he is a sculptor and engineer. It is not lost on me how significant he is as an ever present influence on me; and my mother, too, who is a source of inspiration for my creative endeavours. All the world is in a grain of sand. The simple act of playing in the sand gives me pleasure. Others watching are also enjoying the naive play. It is even more fun when I am with playmates engaging in the sand play when the results of our collective endeavour expand, our ideas transform as we connect with each other and our constructions meet up. Our delight is mutual.